"TRUTH-ful" THURSDAY

Gina, 29 in NJ (dating) writes: What does it mean when he says he really likes you but he's afraid that he may not be able to meet any expectations that you have & would probably make a bad boyfriend cause he works to much? 


So truthfully Gina, . . .this was a question that needs to be answered. So I went to relationship expert and author of "The Girls Guide to Getting the Guy", Richard, 31 in DC (married) to get the 411 on what HE is really thinking. What is going on your guy's mind?

Richard says, "Here's the deal. He's obviously attracted to you because he's given thought to the fact that his time spent with you competes with his job. Men don't give much thought to questions of this manner if we can avoid it! Problem is that he's currently got you ranked behind work in terms of his life priorities. Not good for the short term, but it could benefit you if you're current needs require a part-time lover. If you need a full-time relationship, you should look elsewhere. Also, if he delivered this info to your face vs. text or email, take that as another positive sign. In conclusion your probably dealing with a "grown-up" career minded guy rather than a young ass chaser---that's assuming he's honest and your ass is the only one in his sights!" 

Richard G. is a happily married to a very beautiful woman. I proposed to her after 6 months of dating. Guys know what they want---don't let him b.s. you! Want to know more, check out Richard's blog-  Girls Guide To Getting the Guy . Or want to just get to know Richard, personally, check out - Dick Goodnuts.

My advice: Gina, please read Jennifer Love Hewitt's book "The Day I Shot Cupid". Its a no- nonsense approach to men. I completely agree, a guy will tell you who he is in the first 10 conversations or first 10 dates. Do not make the mistake of thinking,  "oh no, that's not who he is, it can't be.", because yes, actually dollface, it really is who he is. Our problem as women is we tend to talk too much and listen less, if we can listen more, the guy will tell you exactly who he is. It is up to us to decipher if we want to put ourselves through the agony of wanting the guy to be someone that he just simply can't be. Wake up Cinderella, he's telling you the truth, he can't have a relationship, you might be Sofia Vergara's twin, but he's not willing to put you first, . . .your prince charming is out there, you just need to turn on your listening ears. And most guys who are in your age range tend to work too hard and miss out on the best thing to strut into their lives in a long time who is right in front of their face, but Gina, that is his loss!

Next week, find out what MEN think of the recent headlines about "Sexual Addiction". From Jesse James to Tiger, is there really such a thing? According to psychologist, Dr. Drew Pinsky there is, yet it's never been addressed or clinically diagnosed in a psychology book of disorders. We will weigh in, girls and guys give their honest opinions!